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I want to make it, not fake it!

Debt. The four letter word that we sometimes just think is a natural part of life. A means to an end, a way to acquire things that if we had to pay out right cash we would not be able to afford. Growing up my father did not believe in credit cards and he believed in living well below his means. He paid cash for everything and we lived in a small two bedroom apartment, 7 of us plus my niece when she was born. Our rent was well below the market rate. He usually purchased used cars. He went to work everyday, then would work on cars after that. Always working, always saving, and always living well below his means. I had a happy childhood and didn't feel like I missed out on much. I had food, clothes, and most importantly love. I was a little embarrassed one time when a girl from the neighborhood asked me where was my bedroom. I think I told her it's back there pointing to the rear of our apartment. What I was really thinking is, girl you are sitting on it. My two older sister...

'Tis the Season....

The holiday season is in full swing. It's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year.  A time filled with joy and time with family and friends; however, for many people, including myself, the holiday season has not always been that great. Over the years I have had to really put forth the effort to find the joy in it.  At first, I felt alone in this experience, but as Thanksgiving began to approach I started seeing more people post online about the not so cheerful side of the holiday season. Garfield Park Conservatory  For me, the holiday season or really the last quarter of the year (October - December) was a time that I have associated with loss, rejection, and loneliness. It was during the last quarter of the year 2012 that my mother passed away. It was also during the last quarter of the year in 2008 that my marriage ended. As time went on, I thought I was healed as much as one possibly could from such significant life changes. I was enjoying life, but...